Before you think poorly of me… may I say I adore officiating weddings. Every wedding is special and unique, and I feel privileged to be in the presence of love. After officiating hundreds of weddings, do you want to know a secret? I admit that I may tend to zone a little when the couple insists upon the same songs or readings that are in every movie, forever and ever… I try to let it be and remind myself that while this is one of hundreds for me, just a day in the life, this is the only ceremony for them and I give them my all.
So a few years ago, when a couple approached me wanting a Beatles theme wedding ceremony, I was flying like Lucy in the sky with diamonds! This was my era and as a huge Beatles music fan, I was excited. The music was easy to include and at a minimum, who hasn’t heard the tunes in elevators? Beatles music has had a widespread impact across generations and I knew that most people would pick up on the more popular lyrics scattered throughout the ceremony. But scripting the actual ceremony was now in my life. Please right brain: Don’t let me down! It was funny to think there were songs that obviously had to be excluded: Run For Your Life, You Never Give Me Your Money, Nowhere Man, and Baby You’re a Rich Man. Hmmm.
“Oh, by the way, we’d like to include our parents and also have a hand-tying ceremony.” There had to be the appropriate sense of decorum maintained, as we were in a large, traditional church. Help! I looked across the universe and the Internet, and with a little help from my friends, thought: We can work it out!
Along with other versus throughout the ceremony, in the beginning as the couple faced one another at the altar:
“There was love all around,
But I never heard it singing,
No, I never heard it at all,
‘Til there was you…”
And during the ring exchange, while we focused on the hands:
“if I fell in love with you
Would you promise to be true
And help me understand
‘cause I’ve been in love before
and I found that love was more
than just holding hands.”
We had six parents for the hand-tying. Keeping it fun and easy, we armed them with ribbons and I lead them through…
At this time, I invite the parents of Groom and Bride to please come forward.
Groom and Bride please join your right and left hands together forming an infinity sign, a symbol of your infinite love for each other, as I ask you the questions that will bind your hearts and lives together.
When you get older, losing your hair, many years from now, will you still be sending each other a Valentine, birthday greetings, bottle of wine?
Yes. And so the 1st binding is made.
If either of you had been out ‘till quarter to three… would you lock the door?
No. And so the 2nd binding is made.
Will you still need each other, will you still feed each other when you’re 64? Remember, you’ll be older too.
Yes. And so the 3rd binding is made.
Before you grab your coat and get your hat, make the bus in seconds flat… will you take the time to say: I love you, yeah, yeah, yeah?
Yes. And so the 4th binding is made.
Do you promise to not give each other a hard day’s night?
Yes. And so the 5th binding is made.
Do you agree to: Love forever and forever, Love with all your heart, Love whenever you’re together, Love you when you’re apart?
Yes. And so the 6th binding is made.
Through your promises to one another and with a little help from your friends, your hearts and lives are now bound together and you have officially ‘tied the knot.’
I have many times had themed ceremonies and hand-tyings, but this ceremony was undoubtedly one of my favorites! Remember, your ceremony can be simple, elaborate, solemn, or outrageous, in the end, all you need is love!!!